The Forbidden Pages

Every post contains something our publishers made us cut, our lawyers begged us to bury, or our beta readers said went too far.

The Fawn Response: An Education in Disappearing for Others
  • by Stan Taylor

The Fawn Response: An Education in Disappearing for Others

Why does being useful feels like the surest way to be loved? 

How to Stop Being a People Pleaser: A Final Warning
  • by Stan Taylor

How to Stop Being a People Pleaser: A Final Warning

Is this really who you are, or just who you learned to be to survive?

The Need for Control: Why You Prefer Guaranteed Misery Over Potential Joy
  • by Stan Taylor

The Need for Control: Why You Prefer Guaranteed Misery Over Potential Joy

Why do we manage uncertainty by creating even more of it?

People-Pleasing is a Survival Program
  • by Stan Taylor

People-Pleasing is a Survival Program

Why does their slight frown feel like a knife to your chest?

Why You're Addicted to Mediocre Partners (Trauma Bonding in Disguise)
  • by Stan Taylor

Why You're Addicted to Mediocre Partners (Trauma Bonding in Disguise)

Why does this relationship feel like wearing a coat two sizes too small?